so, what you are really saying Amy, is that you can just look 
at a man and know what he's like from what he wears
and what he wears can tell you that
he will not do the world your way,
so you stay away from him.
But now that your man,
who apparently checks all of your boxes,
isn't behaving the way YOU want him to,
becomes what you only thought existed
in OTHER men,
your life falls apart.
Who in their right mind would stay around
for someone who didn't understand them
or love them for who they are?
Would you?
can you imagine an article
written by a man
saying these things about a woman?
the hypocrisy is outrageous