"eros cannot live without philia...  
Philia is the relaxation 
in the presence of the beloved 
which accepts the other's being as being; 
it is simply liking to be with the other, 
liking to rest with the other, 
liking the rhythm of the walk, the voice, 
the whole being of the other...
Philia does not require that we do anything 
for the beloved except accept him, 
be with him, and enjoy him."  
Rollo May